How we work on Letting Go
I found these statements in my recovery archive. I think they are beautiful. I love that they give us concrete things to do instead of holding on tight. Example: instead of enabling, I'm allowing other to learn from natural consequences. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.
TO LET GO: doesn’t mean to stop caring: It means I can’t do it for someone else.
TO LET GO: is not to cut myself off: It is the realization that I can’t control.
TO LET GO: is not to enable: But allow learning from natural consequences.
TO LET GO: is to admit powerlessness: Which means the outcome is not in my hands.
TO LET GO: is not to try and change or blame another: I can only change myself.
TO LET GO: is not to fix: But to be supportive.
TO LET GO: is not to judge: But to allow another to be a human being.
TO LET GO: is not to be in the middle arranging outcomes: but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.
TO LET GO: is not to be protective: It is to permit another to face reality.
TO LET GO: is not to deny: But to accept.
TO LET GO: is not to nag, scold or argue: But to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
TO LET GO: is not to adjust everything to my desire: But to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment.
TO LET GO: is not to criticize and regulate anyone: But to try and become what I dream I can be.
TO LET GO: is not to regret the past: But to grow and live for the future.
TO LET GO: is to fear less and to love more.